"At the end of the day, if I can say I had fun, it was a good day". - Simone Biles
Imagine the future-you, the you that is 20, 30 or even 40 years older than you currently are, came back to give you some advice on how to live your life. If that future-you was with you today, would he/she say to you:
“You should torture yourself every day with negative thoughts about your body and your weight”
“You should stay indoors and not date/see friends/apply for that new job/go out/live life/do things you love until you have lost weight”
“You should spend most of your time worrying and stressing about work/the family/life in general”...
or would that future you advise:
“You should not worry about the small things, what matters is that you spend time with people you care about, do things you enjoy and live your life to the fullest”
“That you should be kinder to yourself because talking to yourself so negatively doesn’t make anything better and it only makes you feel awful most of the time”
“That we only have one life and in the future, the things that seemed like significant sources of stress, were only minor details in the grand scheme of things”
“That you should really celebrate and enjoy time with the people you care about, because we take things and people for granted until they are no longer in our lives"
“That you should go after what you want, and do things you’re passionate about - not putting your life on hold - because time is so precious”.
THINKING ABOUT THE FUTURE CAN PUT THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE. Many people are incredibly critical about themselves and their bodies, spending days and weeks and months worrying about lots of small things... but when they think about whether they really want to spend the next 30 years of their life obsessing about their weight and their size - they realise that life is FAR TOO PRECIOUS. We have been gifted with our bodies to be able to experience life. There are so many things that our wonderful bodies allow us to do, see and enjoy.
Yes of course, I understand that many people want to be healthy and think about their weight because they want great health. Yet strangely enough, talking to themselves negatively about their weight/body does not usually motivate them to get healthy or lose weight - instead it typically encourages very negative feelings, which in turn often encourages them to eat more unhealthy food. Eating healthy food comes from a place of self-love. Whereas going on really restrictive diets and then over-eating/binge-eating comes from a place of feeling not good enough/hating their body.
This is why I always work with my clients to boost their confidence and self-esteem. It is so key, if you want to heal you relationship with food, that you start to value your body for the amazing thing that it is.
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“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” – Mahatma Gandhi