What are your stories?
"I am just someone that finds it hard to lose weight”
“I am just someone who hates the gym”
“I am just someone who binges and needs to overeat”
“I am just someone who never gets the good job/promotion”
“I am just always the bridesmaid and never the bride”
“I am just a really anxious person or a worrier”
What are the stories that you tell yourself? Take a moment to stop and think about how you perceive yourself. The internal stories that we tell ourselves about who we are then go on to affect how we live our lives. If you identify yourself as someone who “hates the gym” - you are never going to feel the motivation to go to the gym. If you are someone who believes that you “never get the job/promotion" - you are not going to take the steps and make the applications that mean that you could get the job.
Our beliefs about WHO WE ARE affect how we then treat ourself. What you identify with you become.
If you want to make changes in your life - a good way to begin making these changes is to start making changes to your internal stories. It helps to stop identifying with those things that you want to change. So stop telling yourself that you are “someone who needs to overeat/binge” or that “you just find it hard to lose weight” - because these stories and these beliefs then shape everything that you do in your day-to-day lives.
Our beliefs affect the actions that we take in our day-to-day lives. When you identify as something - that thing is most likely there to stay. So changes your stories and how you perceive yourself - to change the way you treat yourself day-to-day.